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|  | Why You Choose Your Parents - Part 1
« Thread Started on Jan 23, 2006, 10:26pm » | ![[Quote]](http://s1.images.proboards.com/buttons/quote.gif) |
Source: posted on :- http://starchildascension.org/emb/viewtopic.php?t=491
Originally from:
http://www.thelightweaver.co.za/
Channelled through Michelle Eloff©
I am Kuthumi and I come forward upon the rays of love and wisdom to greet thee at this time and to bring unto each of thee the blessings of sensitivity, the blessings of awakening of playfulness and understanding; greetings beloved ones.
Greetings
And it is with great joy and pleasure in our hearts that we may gather with each of you at this time as we hold you firmly within the heart of Christ and securely upon the hand of God.
Our teaching to you today is for the purpose of bringing a deeper understanding as to why it is you chose the family you incarnated into. Why you chose your parents; why your children chose you as parents and grand parents. I shall speak to you about the importance of self parenting, honouring and disciplining the new children as well as your inner child. I shall discuss briefly the importance of parenting the unborn child, and help you to better understand by giving you an exercise where it is your emotional development became arrested, so that you may successfully draw yourself into a state of emotional maturity.
Prior to every incarnation a soul studies all the aspects of self requiring a state of completion, brought about through choosing to re-incarnate. The soul observes all incomplete processes and unresolved issues from previous journeys and willingly chooses to reincarnate for the purpose of manifesting completeness within the self and in so doing manifesting self mastery. You choose your parents for a number of reasons. You choose them, first of all because of their genetic imprinting, for that which is encoded genetically contributes to your journey, for those imprints are usually part of what you need to master. The other part of the genetic imprint is linked to skills and talents you require to bring your journey to a phase of completion and self mastery.
You choose your parents because their experience can contribute to the path you have chosen. It will benefit what you have chosen. The shape of your body, determined by the genes, will contribute to the journey you have chosen, the colour of your skin, your gender, the culture you are born into, all are very important factors in the life you are creating. You choose your name. It vibrates to a frequency that will support your incoming journey. The exact time and date of your birth, the place of your birth is also vital, for all of this contributes to the plan you have set in place.
When you choose to reincarnate you get together with all the souls you will reincarnate with. You have your 13 guides who will accompany you through your journey, present at the gathering. All the souls whom you will interact with, parents, siblings, lovers, children, close friends, etc are all present. At this meeting your spirit parents are allocated and contracts are agreed upon. This is where it becomes a little confusing for a human because you may choose your parents because of the intense challenge of the relationship, which, in human terms, you interpret as negative or dysfunctional behaviour. Their contribution of negative or dysfunctional behaviour is exactly what you need to help you master an aspect of your own personality, and to build certain characteristics that are absorbed to become higher aspects of your soul. You made contracts with others for the same purposes. However not all contracts are challenging. Many of them are of a supportive nature too. It is only when you manifest in a physical body, incarnated on earth, where negative ego and limited consciousness impact on your experience that you begin to move into a state of victim consciousness and forget why you made your choices.
The reason why Spirit teaches the importance of self awareness, and of being aware of the higher realms, is because many of your support structures lie within those systems. Self awareness gives you the understanding required. Being in touch with the helpers in the invisible realms, can guide you in a more conscious way, therefore, amplifying the inner tools, such as intuition, to guide you in directionsso as to help you understand the choices you have made.
Seeing your parents as vital aspects of your personal journey will liberate you from many feelings and associations of victim consciousness, poverty consciousness, even conditional love consciousness, for they have played their role perfectly. Taking responsibility for the fact that your role as a light worker is to embrace the choices you have made within the spirit world and within the physical world, opens new dimensions of awareness and ability to each and every aspirant. Seeing your parents as key members contributing to everything you require, for the purpose of mastering your life empowers you, it helps you to see that in every single moment every person is doing the very best they can with what they have at hand, emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. Remind yourself that the majority of humanity is in a state of arrested development therefore people are behaving like children a lot of the time because in fact, emotionally or mentally that is what they are. Understanding the choices you have made in so far as why you chose your parents, helps you develop the skills of emotional and spiritual intelligence that those who have walked before you, have not developed to the degree you have. You bring the liberation for the inner child, and as every adult grows up so the skills for conscious parenting, conscious grand parenting and conscious self parenting become a natural experience and participation between all levels of consciousness.
Many people have latched onto their dysfunctional childhood as a means to justify their dysfunctional behaviour. This is not said in judgment, it is said because it is fact, it is a statement of fact beloved ones. However, many people do this because they don’t have the skills to do anything different. The unawareness, the ignorance and the fear are being eliminated by individuals such as your self choosing to find a different path. Therefore let your parents go, embrace the present moment, look at what you have right now, and work with that energy. What gift or gifts, have your parents given you? Think about this.
You chose every contract that you are currently experiencing with every person in your life right now. You chose it for a purpose. Taking responsibility for the choices you have made empowers you to change what needs to be changed, to commit to and integrate what you feel is a part of you. Many of you here are parents and like you, your children chose their parents, your children have chosen you for very similar purposes. But not all experiences are of a negative nature. You are teachers as much as you are students. Children have much to teach their parents. You taught your parents much about themselves even if they did not acknowledge it at the time, but usually when they reacted with "who do you think you are talking to" and "you must have respect", that is usually a sign that you have pushed a button. And even thought they knew inside that what you were saying is true, they did not have the ability to own up to it. So now you know.
You are children of the new age, all of you, regardless of your age and self parenting is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. Self parenting is the first step in healing the life you live, in helping to heal the lives of those who you interact with. Your efforts make a positive difference by changing the magnetic frequency within your magnetic fields so it impacts on others. When you undergo deep healing and change genetically, you shift energy for those who have come before you and those who come after you and those who are still to come, so your great grand children may choose their parents because of what you have done now, do you all understand this? So what you release genetically now could be exactly what your grand children will need in future, but then of course that could be you. (laughter) Some food for thought yes?
How many of you have experienced being in a situation where you feel your buttons being pressed as the rage and anger or pain and grief fill your being. And in those moments it is as if your behaviour becomes alternated and as much as you do not want to behave in that manner and as much spiritual knowledge as you have it does not seem to be enough and when you look again, all hell has broken loose. This is not because you are a bad or an unintelligent person, all that has happened is that your inner child has taken over and he or she is in control. Self parenting requires boundary setting with the inner child. It takes practice to do this, so be patient with yourself. The lower ego has become very accustomed to playing games of a mental and emotional nature. This feeds the inner child’s rage, its pain and sadness. You as the adult hold this awareness. Just like you would have to parent a physical child you gave birth to, the same is done with your inner child. When your buttons are being pressed ask yourself, how am I going to react? You will eventually find in such situations you can be as much as three or four different aspects of yourself observing what is happening in that moment. One of your observers can control the situation, but the inner child is so used to having control that he or she usually wins.
Your first step then is, once having answered the question, is either to remove yourself from the confrontation or situation altogether or to stand within the situation, confronting the individual from your adult perspective and not from the inner child perspective. If you feel you are not in a state of mind or emotion to deal with the situation in an adult manner, simply state that you are feeling extremely angry or sad and would prefer to take the time out for twenty to thirty minutes and address the situation again.
That might be very difficult initially especially if your inner brat is used to throwing tantrums. It may even take a process of swallowing pride, however it is false pride. If you feel you are in a state to deal with the process, maturely, then do so. In such an instant it is vital to own everything you feel and everything you say. This means when you communicate with the person you are in conflict with your dialogue consists of " I" and "Me" not You, therefore , "I am feeling very sad right now, I notice my reaction to what you have said, and I am feeling very upset right now; rather than saying :"you have made me very angry, you have made me very upset". This projects blame and does not take ownership for the situation. The inner child projects blame, yet the adult aspect can own the situation for they are your feelings. As one matures emotionally one realizes that no person can make them feel happy or sad without your permission or their permission. At that point you understand why you need to own your feelings. Is this all clear so far beloved ones?
Yes.
Very well.
The process of self parenting is at times as challenging as raising children, simply because your inner child did not come with a manual either!However, addressing every situation in the moment of its manifestation makes the process a lot easier. Unresolved issues will chase you from one life time to the next if it must. Therefore remind your self, what you resist will most certainly persist. That is guaranteed.
Within a family, very often you reincarnate with the same members on a continuous basis. This is because your plans of light and mastery are very similar and energetically vibrate along a similar vein. Soul groups also impact on the collective consciousness within cities and within countries. Every culture provides an aspect of soul nature and maturing to the evolving soul and you will find very often that a mother in the current life time may have been a sibling or a child in a previous life time. You may find issues manifesting with one of your children for no apparent reason. This too is a sure sign of past life time unresolved issues coming to the fore to be brought into balance. Knowing the reasons behind your choices will make your load lighter. This is why I asked you, what gift did your parents give you? Think about it again if you have not come up with anything yet, for I will come back to this a little later.
Having addressed self parenting one must be aware of how important it is to parent and discipline the new children. You are their guardians. You have no ownership over them, your rights are reserved as guardians of these children. Therefore it is vital to honour their journey, and to release them to experience their path every step of their way.
The area where parents fall into the trap of dysfunctional manifestations arise when a parent tries to control the child’s life and live their issues through their children. Many times the parent does not realize this is the case. The parent believes they are doing the very best they can for their child, however with the proper guidance parents can be educated to understand how their unresolved issues and fears are projected onto their children. Being a parent is one of the greatest opportunities of soul growth there is. The fact that some of you are not parents right now does not matter, for you have been a parent and some of you are still to become parents. Every soul has walked the path of the parent and for some it scared the day lights out of them and have decided not to do it this time around. (laughter) But owning who you are in the face of a child is one of the greatest challenges for the adult.
Your parents demanded respect, as did and does every other adult. You are developing a new state of being where you will command respect, very different. Demanding respect means over powering everyone else regardless of your behaviour, and expecting the honour of respect. Commanding respect comes about through respecting everything else around you, including yourself. Then the energy you emit, automatically commands it and the energies around you respond. No adult can demand respect from a child if the adult does not treat the child with respect. Children know this and will rebel against anyone demanding respect. Observe adults and their interaction with children. Observe the people who children are most drawn to, observe their mannerism, their behaviour and their relationship with children. Children know people inside out. It is only when you grow up that you forget.
All of this said does not mean children must not be disciplined. Discipline comes from a Latin word meaning to teach. When you discipline a child you are not punishing them, you are teaching them, guiding them. Self discipline is about teaching and guiding your inner child and the inner aspects of yourself that need comfort and motivation to do something new and different. Discipline must always be of an age appropriate nature, and through that process the parent must honour the child’s role in their life as a family collectively. Honouring each individual within a family structure is one of the greatest gifts a family can give to its members, for then each person is recognised as an individual. Each person is acknowledged and honoured as a part of the family which makes up the whole and so the interconnectedness between all the members of the family is acknowledged and honoured and becomes an evident aspect of the family as a unit. That unit creates a magnetic grid which automatically attracts to it similar units or common units, manifesting in common unities - communities. These communities are developed on the soul level as well for you will reflect for one another your potential and what needs healing. Children need to be supported, they need to be trusted, loved and respected. You were once children, these were qualities you desired too, and on many occasions you never got this. You now have the opportunity to give this to yourself, to your inner child and to your children or grand children. You have the opportunity to display this with other children if you do not have any of your own yet.
Humanities focus in the modern world in general has been to highlight the short comings of children and adults, it simply evolves from the child into the adult world. Focus through criticism, and affirmation of a negative nature, breaks down the systems of light for each and every child which manifests in the world of adults whose light systems are shattered. Raising ones voice, shouting or screaming at a child, shatters levels of their energy field and can take up to fifteen years to reassemble the pieces of their energy field. This is why a child raised in a home of constant shouting and screaming becomes the adult so sensitive to noise or any conflict involving shouting and screaming that some of them can have severe anxiety and panic attacks. Their energy field has never had the chance to heal itself and the force projected through screaming or shouting is like a blade slicing through their energy and chakras.
This is another reason why self parenting is so important. The more balanced and healed you are within yourself the better parent you become, the better friend to children you become, and the better friend of parents you become. You create the new ripple effect. You with others like yourself around the globe, are the saviors of the children. Inside and out. As children grow up, discipline changes. More responsibility comes their way but with that responsibility comes consequences and the parent needs to let go and give the child the space to explore their life. That is when trust is built between the parents and the child. The most important factor in all relationships between parents and children is honesty. Always be truthful with children, they sense the truth anyway and when you deliberately mislead them by giving them false information you break down their inner core belief in them selves and in you. You shatter their ability to trust their intuition, for their intuition tells them something is not in a state of harmony, and when you contradict that feeling by giving misleading information, it shatters their inner world. You have been at the receiving end of deliberate misleading information, again, the deliberate choice of giving misleading information was most often done with your best interest at heart.
Now when it comes to parenting the unborn child one moves into a different world. From the moment of conception there is consciousness and the soul focuses on building the physical body, the emotional, the mental and spiritual body. This is often referred to as the four lower bodies or the four aspects of physical living. The energy connected to the biological mother or father impacts on the child from the moment of conception therefore the state of consciousness held by both parents at the moment of conception is encoded in the child conceived. How the mother feels about herself, and how the father feels about himself, is coded into the consciousness of that incoming soul, as well as all the genetic imprints from five generations on the mothers’ side of the family and seven generations on the fathers side of the family. Your chakric system begins creating itself which is influenced by everything your mother experiences internally and externally. The same with your father. Even if your father is never a part of your life ever, physically, it still impacts on you. Children who are adopted still play out the roles they experienced in utero - mannerisms, reactions and responses, as well as fears are all there. This has been scientifically documented.
The time of pregnancy is one of the most sacred bonding times between the incoming soul and the agreeing parents. Ideally during that time the mother should be held in a very tranquil space because hormones are coursing through her body, causing upheaval. The environment she occupies, as I have said, should ideally be of a very harmonious nature. There was a time where mothers to be were taken into sacred temples and spent their time within these temples and the gardens of the temples for the duration of their pregnancy. During that time they studied numerology, astrology, astronomy, physics, and nutrition. Alternative methods of developing psychology was also vital and the mother was taken through many programs of self healing for the purpose of ensuring her issues did not become a limitation of the child. During that time she was in telepathic communication with the incoming soul. She was fully aware of the contract she agree to and was also aware of what aspects of her genetic imprint and physical experience were contributing to the incoming souls’ journey. The mother was fed optimum nutrition, everything of an organic nature. She participated in gentle dance and movement and spent many hours sleeping or simply just resting, usually in nature ...(end of side one)
Meditating to the sound of music eased the transition for the incoming soul to ground more energy in the incoming body. It was in those spaces that not one single mother ever had to have her birth artificially induced. No child ever experienced removal from the mother’s womb through caesarian section. It would be of great benefit if these practices could emerge again. The environment at the time of birth is just as important and should be seen as one of the most sacred experiences any human can be a part of for there is a soul stepping forward from the other side taking a physical form, a brand new form. This soul should be welcomed with the utmost humility, respect and honour. Very little attention to those details are paid in modern birth situations. No wonder so many children put on their brakes when they have to come in. The fact that so many births are induced is also cause for great concern for us on the other side. Far more emphasis has had to be put on monitoring a soul prior to incarnation to ensure that the contracts are not interfered with by the physical choice to prematurely induce a birth. Emergency Caesarian is a completely different scenario.
Now let us go back to the gifts your parents have given you, and I would like each of you to express the gifts. Are you ready?
Sister to my left please continue.
Comments from participants fragmentally audible.
(see part 2 - as this channeling was too long for one thread)
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